“Some days there won’t be a song in your heart. Sing anyway.” – Emory Austin
Why do people indulge in negative thoughts? It’s probably far more comfortable to be negative than positive.
Here are three ways to cut out the negativity:
- Stop playing the blame game
When caught in a challenging situation, some people will instinctively blame someone else. It is always the other person’s fault. Instead of taking responsibility and finding solutions to the problem at hand, they will rather blame someone else. They blame their parents for being the child they became, blaming their spouse for making them feel unloved, and blaming their boss for the failed project. They blame the sun for the uncomfortable heat, and they blame the wind for spoiling their hair. What or who next can they blame? There is tremendous power in taking responsibility.
- Stop moaning and groaning
This refers to complainers who are dead set on finding the negative side of everything. Their glass is always half empty. The moaners have difficulty in finding happiness in life. Why? Instead of being grateful for what they do have, they tend to focus on what they do not have. When people whine, they focus on what is wrong in their lives.
- Stop making excuses
Some people creatively come up with innovative reasons and excuses to not commit to anything. In work situations, some people would come up with excuses just to avoid doing the task assigned. Others would claim that the task is difficult or not within their job description. Some would rationalise that ‘It’s always been done this way’ when they are only fearful of change. Their instinct is to give up easily. Instead of finding one reason why something is possible, they would rather find ten reasons why it cannot be done.
There you have it, three simple steps to eliminate negativity: stop blaming, stop making excuses, and stop moaning and groaning.
“I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street; I met a man who had no feet.” – Ancient Persian Saying
An excerpt from my book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times